2017 was a good time. Good days, when I can say I grew by good arithmetic comparing to where and what I was on this day the previous year. I unlearned quite a few things and notions while learning several new ones.
But, there were quite a few lessons which I was greatly successful in imbibing into my soul, and practising as my true nature. And, here are five of those lessons which I learned, imbibed and reaped from this year:
You need to start to do things to get better at them, and not really be better at something first and then start doing it. You learn by doing and not by just reading, listening, and watching or thinking or planning or whatever else.
Until you do actually do something, you just won’t ever know what its for real. It’s a nugget mined out of my own experiences.
With great power may come great responsibility. But with great responsibility definitely comes great power. Because by taking responsibility for your life and owning up for everything good and bad about it, you instantly gain authority to make it better as well, without leaving any case for excuses or for blaming your miseries on others.
You might be suffering because of someone else, but how you choose to respond and react to that is your own deal and responsibility. I learned this lesson long back, but I stopped complaining altogether only recently after reading The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson.
Networking is important. And also, it is not that easy. But, in the long run, a robust and diverse network of people is the best asset one can own. It’s not easy to go to people, connect with them and build a bond. And, networking is even tougher as it for me involves winning trust and respect of the other person, to call it a real and worthy connection.
And, more the count of people from variegated backgrounds and lifestyles, the better your network is. Though one thing to be kept in mind is that networking means building connections and not building friendships, which consumes a lot more of one’s time and energy. It’s a lesson I learned last year but implemented entirely this year.
Best way to decide if you should say yes or not to any person, a job or some kind of opportunity in life is to ask yourself this question: “If I were to die the very next moment engaged doing this thing, will I die a happy person?” If the answer to that question is negative, then you know what needs to be done. Easy peasy.
No confusions, deliberations and doubts. This one lesson has completely transformed and simplified my life, gulping away a lot of tensions. I learned this very valuable lesson from one of my favourite comedian and very inspirational human being, Jeeveshu Ahluwalia.
Don’t follow all quotes blindly. They might read and seem very wise, enlightening and soothing. But, their outcome may not always prove to be that rosy. So use your brain, it’s there for a reason.
Today, any nincompoop can write a quote. I can and so can you. And, most of us (including me), are not experienced and wise enough to contemplate the realities that following a particular way of life preached in a quote may lead one into. No more explanations for this one. If you get it, you get it. I may be wrong here. It’s a lesson learned by collating a lot of my personal experiences.
Those were the five lessons which had the greatest and most transformative impact over me this year. Wishing the reader happy, happening and progressive 2018 ahead. Bliss!